It seemed in the past like I would be really productive for a day or a week, and then something would derail me and I would just zone out while the house fell down around me. Or I would only do the work that I wanted to do (like homeschool prep) rather than the work I needed to do (like staying on top of the checkbook and bills). I now know that part of this was probably a low-level of depression that I lived with for years, but that is (hopefully) all in the past.
So, as a reminder this is my new schedule that I’ve been trying to assimilate:
Coffee & Morning Prayer
Dressed for the Day
Cassidy Nap (1:30)
Coffee & Afternoon Prayer
Evening Prayer (5:30)
Bedtime Snacks (8:00)
Bedtime Prep (8:30)
Bedtime Routines (9:00)
If you notice, I have two hours slotted for chores at 12:30 and 4:30. By chores, I mean housework or other things necessary to keep the household running (bills, phone calls, homeschool prep). Now this doesn’t necessarily mean these are the only times that I’ll be doing chores. Part of my Morning Prep is unloading the dishwasher while I wait for my kettle to warm up my coffee water. Part of my Bedtime Prep is loading up the last of the dishes and running the dishwasher. And I spend at least two hours each day homeschooling.
There are times during schoolwork when the kids are working quietly, and they don’t need me hovering at the table. I try to use these times for switching out laundry, cleaning out the sink, or other easily interrupted chores (if I’m not having to use that time dealing with the preschooler and toddler). And if we happen to finish all of the schoolwork before 11:30, then I expect myself to work on chores until 11:30.
Another part of the equation for balancing work is setting up realistic To Do lists for each day. There are some things that are just a given for everyday (like dishes). Laundry usually takes 3 to 4 days during the week. Then there are the things that come up that are time sensitive, like appointments that need to be scheduled or garbage that needs to go out. There are also the things that ideally would get done, but life will go on even if they don’t.
I also need to be aware of how much time each chore will take. Preparing for the next homeschool quarter can take at least 2 hours of work, so that’s not a good day to plan on switching out the kids’ seasonal clothes (another multi-hour/multi-day chore). Some days might have four big chores on the list, and some days might have ten short chores on the list.
It is really easy to get over-whelmed with the amount of housework waiting to be done at any given time. I could do nothing but clean my house for 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and there would always be something that still needed to be scrubbed. With five kids in the house (most of whom are home all day every day), keeping the house at a basic level of cleanliness is a Sisyphean effort. I have also had to accept that my goal right now is just to keep things from getting too gross.
Disclaimer: My kids are spoiled and do not have regular chores (other than putting away their laundry). It is something I have tried to institute from time to time, but I haven’t had the energy and strength to be consistent. However, there are times over the course of a week when I expect them to help out. And in general, I try to teach them to become self-sufficient and clean up after themselves.
So, my goals for balancing my work load on a daily basis are to have realistic expectations for my To Do list, to plan on about 2 hours of chores per day, and to not allow myself to get over-whelmed into trying to do everything or to feel guilty for the things that don’t get done.