We just announced this week that we are expecting Baby #5 in August. Here are some highlights that didn’t make it into the original blog post.
1. Literally thirty seconds after I saw the positive on the home pregnancy test, my husband called to tell me that he was going out to lunch with a colleague who wanted to pick my husband’s brain about parenthood. I immediately burst out into hysterical laughter, and then had to explain what I had just learned.
2. Advent is an interesting time to learn that you have a surprise pregnancy on your hands. You constantly hear about how Mary was told that she was about to have a really big surprise pregnancy, and yet she trusted in the Lord and just said “yes”. Let’s just say that I was feeling very un-Mary-like at first….until I went to confession and took it to my priest. He recommend that I pray for Mary’s intercession to help me become an obedient daughter. I really felt more at peace after that.
3. Bailey (9) did not take the news of the new baby very well. There was much wailing and gnashing of teeth. Then the next day she was so excited that she was hoping for twin girls and ready to pick out baby names. Piper (6) was excited from the beginning, and she likes the idea of a baby brother. Katie (3) wasn’t sure at first, but after a little bit she said she was glad we were going to have a new baby. Sabrina (18 months) is blissfully unaware.
4. My husband and I were actually trying to avoid pregnancy, and the reasons for avoiding still seem pretty valid. But besides those worries, I must admit that I was a little embarrassed to have to admit an NFP failure, especially to my peeps that are skeptical of it to begin with. I learned, thanks to ultrasound technology, that it really wasn’t an NFP failure as much as a failure of us following the NFP rules to the letter. We bent the Day 6 rule. And while the chances of me getting pregnant when we bent that rule were still extremely slim (like 1%), if we hadn’t bent it the chances of me getting pregnant would have probably been completely non-existent. So, it wasn’t that the science was wrong; it was just our application of it.
5. I’ve actually had to have two ultrasounds to check on the progression of the baby thanks to some small bleeding issues I was having. The first doctor looked at me like I was crazy when I explained that I use NFP. The second doctor, though, just took it in stride. When I explained that our third baby was conceived while using artificial birth control, she said that she got pregnant with her first child when she was on the pill. I think most people discount NFP because they have this illusion that surprise pregnancies only occur if one doesn’t use artificial birth control or because one is too stupid to use it correctly. They don’t realize that artificial birth control is not as foolproof as they think.
6. My pregnancy symptoms started to really hit the week of Christmas. I would just get hit with these waves of exhaustion that would almost make me pass out. My husband found me head down on the kitchen table next to my plate full of Christmas dinner. He said, “Why don’t you just go lie down?” “I’m so tired,” I cried, “but I am also SO hungry.” So I would take a few bites, lay my head down, take a few bites, and lay my head down. It was rather pitiful, but those mashed potatoes were so good.
7. It was so great to see two of my three midwives this week (the third was on call). They are just so much fun, and they always have a big hug for me. Each one of the three has caught a baby for me, so it will be interesting to see which one will get a second chance in August. I feel blessed to have stumbled upon an OB/GYN practice that keeps CNM’s on staff. While I don’t exactly look forward to the actual act of childbirth, I feel confident that things will be good with any of them by my side…no unnecessary procedures, respect for my comfort level and preferences, and lots of laughter.


